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Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Love Language Minute ~ "Help! I'm Being Controlled!" ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, June 19: Father's Day ~ It Starts at Home by Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman


Happy Father's Day

It Starts At Home
A Practical Guide to Nurturing Lifelong Faith
authors Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope
 
Kurt Bruner
It Starts at Home
by Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope
   
Pastor Steve Stroope
It Starts at Home
by Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope  
 

Dr. Gary Chapman
author
Desperate Marriages
"Help! I'm Being Controlled!"

 
Love Language Minute ~ "Help! I'm Being Controlled!" ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, June 19: Father's Day ~ It Starts at Home by Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



"Help! I'm Being Controlled!"
Dr. Gary Chapman

 
One of my books is called Desperate Marriages. What is a 'desperate marriage'? A desperate marriage is one in which one of the individuals is involved in a lifestyle that is extremely detrimental to the relationship - such as, alcohol or drug abuse, verbal or physical abuse. Today I want to talk about "The Controlling Spouse."

Attributes of a Controlling Spouse
Controllers have a dominant personality and therefore seek to dominate their spouses. They are not mean spirited, but they are determined. The positive side of a controlling personality is that these people get things done. They take charge, solve problems, and make decisions.
The controller will rarely ask for the advice of their spouse. And, if they do, they seldom take it seriously. They know what is best and if you will listen. They will explain it to you "one more time," and say things like "any sane person will agree with me." It is not a far stretch to see why the spouse of a controller often feels like a child ... that their thoughts, ideas, and feelings are unimportant or illogical.

If your spouse has a strongly controlling personality, my guess is that you do not have an intimate marriage. Controllers often 'steam roll' their spouses in order to get things done. The spouse ends up with resentment and either fights back or withdraws in silent suffering. Neither of these approaches improves the situation.

Agree to Disagree
So, what are you to do if you are married to a controller? Some people capitulate. They give up and find their fulfillment in the children, or their work, and simply accept a poor marriage. However, I think it is far more rewarding to 'stand up'. I don't mean to argue, I mean you agree with the controllers intentions, but don't yield to their demands. Your attitude is, "I love you too much to let you treat me like a child."

I want to suggest that you try influencing your spouse by agreement. By which I mean you agree with their arguments, but don't accept their conclusions. A wife might say, "Honey, I know that we are saving money by not using the dryer, but I don't have time to hang the clothes in the basement. If you want to do that, fine, but I'm going to use the dryer."

Arguing and fighting with a controlling spouse won't get you very far. You'll never win an argument with a controller; you'll only prolong the battle. A much more positive result will emerge from a kind, but firm refusal to be controlled. Take responsibility for your own attitude. Remember, you can't change a controlling spouse, but you can influence them through your responses to their behavior.


Adapted from Desperate Marriages by Gary Chapman. Find out more at http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.




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Saturday, June 19: Father's Day

Happy Father's Day
It Starts at Home

Building Relationships
with
Dr. Gary Chapman

It Starts at Home
authors
Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope


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Saturday, June 19: Father's Day
Building Relationships Radio


On this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, we'll celebrate Father's Day with four fathers .. all who want to pass their faith onto their children. Our guests include authors Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope, who want to help dads speak into the lives of their children in a meaningful way.

Featured resource for this program:

It Starts at Home by Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope.



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