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Sharing My ExperiencesMuch of life centers around encounters that happen throughout the day - things people say or do, situations that develop. When I share these with my spouse we feel that we are a part of what each other is doing. We sense that we are a social unit. What happens in the other persons' life is important to me.
Another aspect of social intimacy involves the two of us doing things together. Attending a movie or athletic event, shopping or washing the car together,or a picnic in the park are all ways of building social intimacy. Much of life involves doing. When we do things together, we are not only developing a sense of teamwork, but we are also enhancing our sense of intimacy.
The things we do together often form our most vivid memories. Will we ever forget climbing Mount Mitchell together? Or, giving the dog a haircut? Social intimacy is an important part of a growing marriage.
Sharing My BeliefsThe fourth essential component of an intimate relationship is spiritual intimacy. We are spiritual creatures. Anthropologists have discovered that around the world people are religious. We all have a spiritual dimension. The question is, are we willing to share this part of our lives with our spouses? When we do, we experience spiritual intimacy.
It may be as simple as sharing something you read in the Bible this morning and what it meant to you. Spiritual intimacy is also fostered by shared experience. After attending worship with her husband, one wife said: "There is something about hearing him sing that gives me a sense of closeness to him." Praying together is another way of building spiritual intimacy. If you can't pray aloud, then pray silently while holding hands. No words are uttered, but your hearts move closer to each other. You have experienced a moment of spiritual intimacy.
Sharing My Body
Because men and women are sexually different, we often come at sexual intimacy in different ways. The husband's emphasis is most often on the physical aspects. The seeing, the touching, the feeling, the experience of foreplay and climax are the focus of his attention. The wife, on the other hand, comes to sexual intimacy with an emphasis on the emotional aspect. To feel loved, cared for, appreciated, and treated tenderly brings her great pleasure. In short, if she truly feels loved, then the sexual experience is but an extension of this emotional pleasure. Sexual intimacy requires understanding and responding to these differences.
It should be obvious that we cannot separate sexual intimacy from emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual intimacy. We cannot attain sexual intimacy without intimacy in the other areas of life. The goal is not just to have sex, but to experience closeness, to find a sense of mutual satisfaction.
Adapted from The Family You've Always Wanted by Gary Chapman.
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