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Saturday, August 28, 2010

Love Language Minute ~ "Things I Wish I'd Known" ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ September 11, 2010 ~ "Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married" ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman


Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

Love Language Minute ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ September 11, 2010 ~ "Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married" ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



Dr. Gary Chapman



Love Language Minute ~ "Things I Wish I'd Known" ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 27, 2010 ~ "Dear Gary: August Edition" ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



Love Language Minute 
"Things I Wish I'd Known"
Dr. Gary Chapman





Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

People don't get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship. What is ironic is that we recognize the need for education in all other pursuits of life and fail to recognize that need when it comes to marriage. Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage. Therefore, it should not be surprising that they are more successful in their vocational pursuits than they are in reaching the goal of marital happiness.
The decision to get married will impact one's life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush into marriage with little or no preparation for making a marriage successful. In fact, many couples give far more attention to making plans for the wedding than making plans for marriage. The wedding festivities last only a few hours, while the marriage, we hope, will last for a lifetime.

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married is not a book on how to plan a wedding. This is a book on how to have a successful marriage. I've spent the last thirty-five years of my life counseling with couples whose dreams of a happy marriage have been shattered in the real world of dirty dishes, unpaid bills, conflicting work schedules, and crying babies. With hard work and months of counseling, many of these couples have gone on to have good marriages. For that, I am grateful.
It is my conviction that many of these struggles could have been avoided had the couple taken time to prepare more thoroughly for marriage. That is why I wrote this book. I want you to learn from their mistakes. It is much less painful than learning from your own mistakes. I want you to have the kind of loving, supportive, mutually beneficial marriage that you envision. However, I can assure you, that kind of marriage will not happen simply because you get married. You must make time to discover and practice the proven marital guidelines that make such a marriage possible.
For the individual who is not in a dating relationship and has no immediate prospects of marriage, the book will provide a blueprint on moving from singleness to marriage. For the couple who is dating but not yet engaged, it will help you decide if and when to announce your plans to get married. For the engaged couple, it will help you examine the foundation and learn the skills that are necessary for building a successful marriage.
As I look back over the early years of my marriage, I wish someone had told me what I am about to tell you. I honestly think I would have listened. However, in my generation, the concept of "preparation for marriage" did not exist. I'm hoping that my openness about my own marriage will help you avoid some of the pain and frustration that Karolyn and I experienced.
It is my desire that you will prepare for your marriage as though it were the most important human relationship you will ever have. If you give it your full and best attention, you will be on the road to seeing your dreams of marital happiness come true. Remember, your wedding day is just the beginning!

-Gary Chapman


Adapted from the introduction of

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman



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Saturday, August 28, 2010

"Dear Gary August Edition"




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Dr. Gary Chapman




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Saturday, August 24 ~ "Dear Gary: August Edition"


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Whether it's a question about marriage, singleness, parenting, or dating, listeners have come to trust the answers given by Dr. Gary Chapman. On this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, you'll hear more questions for the author of the NY Times bestseller, The 5 Love Languages™. See if you agree with Gary's advice to callers this week -- and learn how you can better speak love into the lives of those around you.
Featured resource: The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.


Tune in to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, the weekly radio broadcast brought to you by Moody Radio and Moody Publishers. Listen live online Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. CST at moodyradio.org, check your local radio station, or download free podcasts and get more information.



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Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Love Language Minute ~ Resolving Conflicts 101 ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 21, 2010 ~ Too Small to Ignore by Dr. Wess Stafford ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman


"Develop a Loving, Supportive and Mutually Beneficial Marriage"
Dr. Gary Chapman

Dr. Gary Chapman

Too Small to Ignore
 Why the Least of These Matters Most
 by Dr. Wess Stafford President and CEO, Compassion International with Dean Merrill.
Forgiveness
 Dr. Wess Stafford
Forgiveness and the Freedom of Letting go
Story of Compassion


Dr. Wess Stafford

"Wess Stafford is the president of Compassion International. He was also a victim of physical and sexual abuse as a child at the hands of his teachers and staff at an international Christian school for missionary kids- exactly the type of children (for the most part) we'll be teaching in Haiti. This book made me weep. In addition to his personal story, it made an incredible case for the Bible demonstrating how God values children, and might even prefer them for his biggest, most important assignments."
Quote from newlyweds on mission to serve the people of Haiti.



Love Language Minute ~ Resolving Conflicts 101 ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 21, 2010 ~  Too Small to Ignore by Dr. Wess Stafford ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



Resolving Conflicts 101
Dr. Gary Chapman


What's so bad about arguing?
First, let me clarify what I mean by the word argue. It is a legal term. In a court of law attorneys make arguments designed to show the guilt or innocence of their client. They present the 'facts' with the attitude, "Any reasonable person would agree with my argument."

What works fairly well in the court room, works poorly in a marriage, because there is no judge available to determine when your spouse is 'out of order'. Arguments become charged with emotion and you end up yelling, screaming, or crying. Each feels the other is unreasonable. What's so bad about arguing? It turns spouses into enemies who have feelings of hurt, anger, and resentment.

Why is it so important to resolve conflicts?
Because unresolved conflicts stand as barriers to marital unity. Conflicts are those issues over which we have differences and we both feel that our side is right. If we don't find a 'meeting place' we become enemies instead of teammates. And, life becomes a battlefield. No one likes to fight. So, sooner or later someone gives up and walks away.

How sad that thousands of marriages end because couples never learn to resolve conflicts. The first step in resolving conflicts is to get out of the "arguing mode" and get into the "understanding mode". Stop trying to win an argument and start trying to understand each other.

Why do people argue?
In one word, rigidity. In essence we are saying, "My way is the right way, and if you don't do it my way, I'll make your life miserable." The arguer insists on getting his own way.

Conflict resolvers have a different attitude. They say, "I'm sure we can work this out in a way that will be positive for both of us. Let's think about it together." They look for a win-win resolution. They begin by respecting each other's ideas and looking for a solution instead of trying to win an argument.

The Scriptures say, "Love does not demand its own way." Actually, love is looking out for the other person's interest. "What would be best for you?" is the question of love.

You will never resolve conflicts if you don't learn to listen.
Many people think they are listening when in fact they are simply reloading their verbal guns. Listening means seeking to understand what the other person is thinking and feeling. It is putting ourselves in the other person's shoes and trying to look at the world through their eyes.

Here's a good sentence with which to begin. "I want to understand what you are saying because I know it is important." One man told me that he made a sign which read: "I am a Listener." When his wife started talking he would hang it around his neck to remind himself of what he was doing. His wife would smile and say, "I hope it's true." He learned to be a good listener.

We are all busy.
Often, too busy to listen. And yet, listening is the only way you will ever come to understand your spouse's thoughts and feelings. Listening takes time and requires focus. Many people pride themselves in being able to listen while reading e-mails or watching television. One husband said, "My wife insists that I sit down and listen to her. I feel like I'm in a straitjacket, like I'm wasting time."

When you drop everything, look at your spouse and listen, you communicate, "You are the most important person in my life." On the other hand, when you listen while doing other things, you communicate: "You are one of my many interests." Listening is a powerful expression of love.


Adapted from Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing by Gary Chapman.


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The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing



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Saturday, August 21, 2010


Too Small to Ignore
by Dr. Wess Stafford


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Dr. Wess Stafford
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Saturday, August 21, 2010
Too Small to Ignore
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It’s amazing when you hear how God can use the hurts of our lives for his glory. Wess Stafford was brutally abused while his parents served on the mission field. God has used that experience for good in his life, but it’s come with a lot of pain. On this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, you’ll hear Dr. Stafford’s story and how his compassion for the hurting came from this horrific experience.
 
 
The featured resources: Too Small to Ignore by Dr. Wess Stafford.
 
 
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Thursday, August 12, 2010

Love Language Minute ~ Heal the Past for a Better Future ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 14, 2010 ~ When Life is Hard by James MacDonald ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman

The Five Love Languages, Singles Edition by Gary Chapman


Love Language Minute ~ Heal the Past for a Better Future ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 14, 2010 ~ When Life is Hard by James MacDonald ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



Heal the Past for a Better Future
by Gary Chapman

Life's greatest happiness is found in good relationships, and life's deepest pain is found in bad relationships. If you feel loved by your mother, then the maternal relationship brings you feelings of comfort and encouragement. On the other hand, if your relationship with your father is fractured, you probably suffer feelings of abandonment.

Many single adults have felt unloved by one or both parents. In my book: The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition, one of the ideas I discuss is how understanding the five love languages can help Singles establish or re-establish a more positive relationship with parents. Love holds the greatest potential for healing the past and creating a better future.

Sometime ago, I was speaking at a state penitentiary on the topic of the five love languages. I took the slant of helping them understand why they did or did not feel loved by their parents. When I called for questions or comments, one young man said, "I want to thank you for coming. For the first time in my life I realize that my mother loves me. My love language is physical touch, but my mother never hugged me. In fact, the first time I ever remember getting a hug from her was the day I left for prison. But, I realized that she spoke some of the other love languages. She really was loving me. I just didn't get it."

You see, most parents honestly desire to communicate love to their children, but unless they are aware that love languages differ for different people, they tend to express love through their own love language. It wasn't that they didn't love you, but rather they didn't know how to express love in a way that made you feel loved. Through understanding the love languages, you may discover that your parents really did love you.

Whether you are single or married, you might consider taking the free Love Language Assessment for Singles to discover how you prefer to receive love from others, and in this case: a parent. You might find the results bring healing to a hurt relationship from the past, as well as give you some insight for a better future.


Adapted from The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition by Gary Chapman. Find out more at http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.




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Saturday, August 14, 2010


"When Life is Hard"
by James MacDonald























James MacDonald. and his wife Kathy




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James MacDonald
with Dr. Gary Chapman

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Chris and Andrea Fabry


Saturday, August 14, 2010

"When Life is Hard"

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"When Life is Hard"
Have the difficulties of life wrapped you up inside? Are you struggling with loss and pain or financial hardship? On this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, it's a rebroadcast of a conversation with pastor and author James MacDonald. All of us will experience difficulty at some point. How can you prepare yourself for that, or what do you do if you find yourself in the middle of hard times right now?


Featured resource for this program: When Life is Hard by James MacDonald.



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James MacDonald and his wife Kathy married in 1983, have three children, and reside in the northwest suburbs of Chicago.



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Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Love Language Minute ~ Conflicts Over Lifestyle Choices ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 7, 2010 ~ The Second-Half Adventure by Kay Marshall Strom ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



Parenting Your Adult Child
 How You Can Help Them Achieve Their Full Potential
by Ross Campbell, M.D., Dr. Gary D Chapman, PH.D.


The Second-Half Adventure
 Don’t Just Retire
  Use Your Time, Skills & Resources to
Change the World
by Kay Marshall Strom.


Kay Marshall Strom



Dr. Gary Chapman


Love Language Minute ~ Conflicts Over Lifestyle Choices ~ Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday, August 7, 2010 ~ The Second-Half Adventure by Kay Marshall Strom ~ Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman



Conflicts Over Lifestyle Choices
Dr. Gary Chapman

Homosexuality
I am meeting more and more Christian parents who are struggling in their efforts to understand homosexuality. Almost all parents - even those who say we should tolerate all lifestyles - will feel shock and deep pain if one of their children announces that he is homosexual. The initial reaction is that they have failed their child in some critical way.

The fact is that research has failed to discover the causes of homosexuality. We simply don't know why some people have "same sex" attraction. So what's a Christian parent to do? The example of Jesus would lead us to spend time with them, communicate with them, and demonstrate love for them, even though we do not approve of their lifestyle.

When Dr. Ross Campbell and I wrote our book: Parenting Your Adult Child, we discovered that many parents are struggling in their efforts to relate positively to children who have declared themselves homosexual. Feelings of confusion, depression, shock, and anxiety are common. Many parents are inclined to reject their children. However, rejection solves nothing.

Keep the doors of communication open. Share your feelings of hurt and frustration, but affirm your love. If your child is open to counseling from a Christian perspective, then get them in touch with such groups as Exodus International. As parents you also may want to visit a Christian counselor to help you sort out your own feelings. Your child's choices need not destroy your life.

Cohabitation
In the fifties it was called "shacking up". Today it's "cohabitation," or simply "living together." So what are Christian parents to do when they find themselves in conflict with their child's sexual behavior? Some parents have tried the 'ostrich' approach, denying that it's happening. Others take the 'missile' approach, launching verbal condemnation.

I believe the Christian approach is to speak the truth in love. "I think you know that I don't approve of what you are doing. I think it is detrimental to your future. But I know that you are an adult and I cannot make decisions for you. I do request that you respect our beliefs and not sleep together at our house." Then treat the couple with love and respect. Pray, and give God a chance to work.

Religion
Parents often find themselves in conflict with their young adult children. Sometimes these conflicts focus on religion. They become involved in a different religion or a cult. How is the Christian parent to respond? First, let me remind you that the greatest influence you have on your child's religious beliefs happens in the first eighteen years of their lives.

They have heard you and they have watched you. The closer your practice is to your preaching, the more they respect your beliefs. If you have failed, it's time to repent and apologize. Then, it's time to listen and dialogue. The days for preaching are over. They are young adults and you must respect their freedom. It's the same freedom that God gives to all of us.

In Conclusion
Young adults often make poor moral choices. Some of these choices result in unintended pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and emotional distress. What role are parents to play in all of this. We obviously cannot control their behavior. Nor, can we undo the results of what has happened. However, we can let them learn from the consequences of wrong choices.

We can love them but not "deliver" them. Be kind and understanding of their pain, but we cannot remove the pain. One of the big lessons in life is that all behavior has consequences. Learning to think before we act is a sign of maturity. Many children learn by experience. As painful as this is for parents, we must not interfere with the process.


Adapted from Parenting Your Adult Child by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell.
Find out more at http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.




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Saturday, August 7, 2010


The Second-Half Adventure
 by Kay Marshall Strom


Building Relationships
with Dr. Gary Chapman

Co-host


Chris and Andrea Fabry



Saturday, August 7, 2010
"The Second-Half Adventure"
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Retirement. A life of leisure. No cares. No worries. Just time to relax. Well, on this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, author and speaker Kay Marshall Strom wants to tweak your ideas about retirement. She says it’s an adventure that’s not to be missed. Many seniors are finding the retirement years are a great opportunity to serve others. Don’t miss this stimulating conversation for all ages,  on the next Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman. Resource: the Second-Half Adventure.

The featured resources for this broadcast is The Second-Half Adventure by Kay Marshall Strom.

Tune in to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, the weekly radio broadcast brought to you by Moody Radio and Moody Publishers. Listen live online Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. CST at moodyradio.org, check your local radio station, or download free podcasts and get more information.

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