Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

''I give thanks to my God always for you because of the grace of God that was given you in Christ Jesus, that in every way you were enriched in him in all speech and all knowledge—'' Romans 16:4-5 ESV


Thanksgiving

EASTER ~ JESUS

EASTER ~ JESUS ~ HE IS RISEN

GOOD FRIDAY

COMMUNION SERVICE

PALM SUNDAY HOSANNA TO THE KING

HOLY WEEK: Sunday, April 13, 2014 ~ Sunday, April 20, 2014


EASTER ~ JESUS

Series: Fighting For Your Family

Series: Fighting For Your Family
Click Image. Let the Children Come to Me ~ Series: Fighting For Your Family ~ Part Six ~ Children, God’s Special Gift. Matthew 18:1-6; Ephesians 6:1-4 ESV. Image: Children Silhouette.

Building Relationships Radio ~ Saturday

Primitive Baptists

Biblical Inspiration and Biblical Inspiration 1

There was an error in this gadget

Monday, January 31, 2011

Love Language ~ May I Have Your Attention ~ Please ~ Giving Love

NEW YEAR 2012 ~ Welcome to 2012! Have a blessed New Year



Thanksgiving For The LORD'S Favor


"Is there hope to overcome common marriage challenges?"

"Is there hope to overcome common marriage challenges?"


Love Language


CHURCHES 





Build Healthy Relationships With One Another

Love Language Minute ~ Love Language ~ May I Have Your Attention, Please ~ Quality Time ~ Let's Talk ~ Are You Listening? ~ Communication 101 ~ Giving Love on Valentine's Day



May I Have Your Attention,

Please
 Dr. Gary Chapman


Love Language: Quality Time
What are some things that you know your spouse would like for you to do? Make a list. If your list includes: Get a baby-sitter and go out to dinner, just the two of us. Or, Take a walk together and talk as we walk. Or, Sit down and talk about your day before you run off to do other things. Then, your spouse's love language is Quality Time.

What speaks most deeply to him/her is for you to give them your undivided attention. It is not enough to be in the same house. They want to know, "Do you really love me?"  "If you love me," they reason, "then you will spend time with me." If you have time for golf, church, and computers but no time for your spouse, they will feel unloved. Learn to speak the language of Quality Time and you will enhance the emotional climate of your marriage.

Attention, please.
Being in the same house is not to be equated with quality time. A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. Togetherness has to do with focused attention. When a father is sitting on the floor, rolling a ball to his two year old, his attention is not focused on the ball but on his child. For that brief moment, however long it lasts, they are together.

A husband who is watching sports on television while he talks to his wife is not giving her quality time, because she does not have his full attention. Quality time does not mean that we have to spend hours gazing into each other's eyes. It does mean that for the moment we are giving our full attention to the other person. Quality time is one of the fundamental languages of love.

Let's Talk.
Most individuals who complain that their spouse does not talk, do not mean literally that he or she never says a word. They mean that they seldom take part in meaningful conversation: sharing thoughts, feelings, and desires. If your spouse's primary love language is quality time, such dialogue is crucial to his or her emotional sense of being loved.

If I am sharing my love for you by means of quality time, it means I will focus on drawing you out, listening empathetically to what you are saying. I will ask questions, not in a badgering manner, but with a genuine desire to understand what you are thinking, feeling, and what you desire of me. Have you had such a conversation with your spouse this week. If not, then why not do it today?

Are You Listening?
Many of us are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve. When your wife shares a problem that is going on at her work what is your normal response? If you give her advice, you are not meeting her need. Unless she asks for advice, she does not want advice.

She wants you to hear her struggle and express understanding of her hurt, stress and pressure. She wants to know that you love her and the you are with her. We must be willing to give advice, but only when it is requested and never in a condescending manner. What your spouse wants is love, not advice. Learn to listen and express understanding and your spouse will feel loved.

Communication 101
If your spouse complains that you don't talk, please stay tuned for the next 60 seconds. Self-revelation does not come easy for some of us. In childhood we were taught to keep our thoughts and feelings inside.

Here's an exercise that will help. Every three hours take five minutes and write down what has happened in that three hours and what emotions you felt. For example:
  • The driver behind me was riding my bumper. I felt angry.
  • The gas pump did not give me a receipt. I felt irritated.
  • My work associate came in 20 minutes late. I felt resentment.
  • I was told my project is due in 3 days. I feel frustrated and anxious.
Now, take these home and share them with your spouse. You will learn talk and your marriage will be enhanced.

Adapted from the A Love Language Minute broadcast.









SAMPLE IT >>









Check the Foundation Before You Get Married


Would you like some guidelines for helping you decide whom you marry?

The Scriptures say that when we get married, the husband and wife become ‘one’. The word speaks of deep intimacy. If we’re going to have that kind of marriage, then we need a strong foundation on which to build. That foundation consists of the things you hold in common. Here are a few questions to consider before you marry:
  1. Spiritual Unity: Are you marching to the beat of the same drummer? If not, in marriage you will be ‘out of step’ with your spouse spiritually.
  2. Intellectual Compatibility: Can you carry on conversations about intellectual matters without arguing?
  3. Values: Do you value the same things?
  4. Socially Compatible: Are you on the same page socially?
Check the foundation before you marry.



Choose One:










The Five Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.


A Love Language Minute


Link:
Live Stream Saturday Mornings

Building Relationships Radio
Eastern Time Live Stream Saturday Mornings
11:00 a.m. Eastern Time Live Stream

Five Love Language Feed



A Love Language Minute 


Tune in to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, the weekly radio broadcast brought to you by Moody Radio and Moody Publishers. Listen live online Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. and evenings at 7:00 p.m. CST at moodyradio.org, check your local radio station, or download free podcasts and get more information.





Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Love Language Minute ~ How Do You Parent Millennials? ~ How to Really Love Your Adult Child ~ Building a Healthy Relationship in a Changing World by Authors Gary Chapman, PhD, and Ross Campbell, MD




How to Really Love Your Adult Child
Building a Healthy Relationship in a Changing World
 Authors Gary Chapman, PhD, and Ross Campbell, MD

Dr. Ross Campbell

Dr. Gary Chapman

Love Language Minute ~ How Do You Parent Millennials? ~ How to Really Love Your Adult Child ~ Building a Healthy Relationship in a Changing World by Authors Gary Chapman, PhD, and Ross Campbell, MD


How Do You Parent Millennials?
Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell

How Do You Parent Millennials?
Fifty years ago, everyone knew the script.Young people finished high school and either went to college or got a job. For some, their first job was in the military. With or without college, readily available full-time employment meant that independence was just around the corner. They would find their own apartment and start to save for the day when they married (most married young) and began a family.

Everyone knew their role and played it quite well. If life was not always happy, at least it was stable.

Fifty years ago, this book could not have been written. But things have changed during the past five decades, and the predictable is no more.

Nowhere have these changes been more poignantly felt than by parents of those amazing and puzzling young people we call Generation Y (or the Millennials or the Mosaics), as well as some of the younger Gen-Xers. Among the changes affecting the contour of the family circle are:
  1. Adult children may live more than one hundred miles away, often out of state.
  2. Or, adult children, increasingly, may be moving back to the nest - sometimes with their own children.
  3. Many adult children don't marry until their late twenties or thirties.
  4. Some adult children have live-in partners of the opposite sex, sharing their lives and sometimes their checking accounts, but not marrying.
  5. Adult children may seem less driven than their parents.
It is easy enough to try to lay blame for the changing, unsettled times solely on uncontrollable factors. Yet many of today's boomer parents have to look no further than their own experiences when they were young. Many young people decided that sex was too beautiful to be kept for marriage, that multiple partners were the wave of the future. The pleasures of recreational drug use and sexual experimentation drew many, and social stigmas waned. Divorce became the norm in some circles.

Today 40 percent of our young adults grew up as children of divorce. The Gen Xers, in particular, were labeled latchkey children, because they had keys to their homes after school, as their parents were away, working. Many of these children were more often shuffled and managed than parented. The Millennial generation were the "baby on board," pampered generation, but their coming of age and seeming delaying of adulthood has also baffled parents.

With all these changes, many parents wonder now how to relate to their adult children. There are roles that parents can and should play in the lives of their adult children, as we plan to show in this book; but to play those roles we need to better understand our grown sons and daughters.

Many of our young people want to establish a lifestyle similar to what their parents have, but they also see that, increasingly, the prospects for doing that are bleak, at least in the current economic crunch. We are all aware of the dismal unemployment statistics—by some measurements, young adults have suffered the most. Most of the jobs available are in the service categories, which do not offer a good wage. This means that great numbers of well-trained young people are looking for fewer and fewer high-paying positions.

Some researchers even suggest that “emerging adulthood”—the life stage from about 18 to 30—is a separate developmental stage similar to adolescence, which was first identified early in the twentieth century.

While it may seem artificial and unfair to gather all Millennials into one pot, these young people do seem to share enough attitudes to make them a distinct group. Knowing how great numbers of them think and feel can be helpful to you when you are at wits’ end trying to understand your child.

This very large (75 million) generation has been described as optimistic, civic-minded, and socially aware – one author went so far as calling them possibly “the next Greatest Generation.” However, they are also described as having a “sense of entitlement” and as “trophy kids” raised during a “child-centric” era. Millennials may have overblown expectations for their work—when they can find work, which, as we have seen, is very difficult for many of them right now.

In work, school, and relationships, this generation tends to be more team oriented. They aren’t just expert at technology—they assume it. They are comfortable with diversity. They are confident, but also very relational. And, say human-resource experts, they are hard workers. At the same time, while many were encouraged to achieve as they were growing up, they are less driven than their boomer elders.

And they are taking a long time to “grow up,” as it is conventionally understood. Jeffrey Arnett, who coined the term “emerging adulthood,” comments:
To be a young American today is to experience both excitement and uncertainty, wide-open possibility and confusion, new freedoms and new fears. The rise in the ages of entering marriage and parenthood, the lengthening of higher education and prolonged job instability during the twenties reflects the development of a new period of life for young people in the United States and other industrialized societies . . . It is a new and historically unprecedented period of the life course . . . [that] should be recognized as a distinct new period of life that will be around for many generations to come.
Today as Millennials finish their schooling (and they are the most educated generation in our history), they are not always ready to tackle the challenge of jobs and families, a trend that has been developing for a number of years and has only been heightened by the recent recession. In their inability or reticence, as Arnett notes, they are creating a new phase of life between dependent childhood and independent adulthood.

In spite of profound changes during the past fifty years that have affected many families, we do see some hope on the horizon. Here in America we still have many parents and children who work through and enjoy their new relationships as the child becomes an adult. Many parents genuinely enjoy being with their adult children; several referred to their grown children as “good friends.” And a variety of polls show that both the Millennials and Generation X want their marriages and families to succeed. Indeed, said the author of one study, “The majority of [Millennials] want to get married . . . they just want to do it right the first time.” Like you, your children care about their future, and they are wrestling to know what to do. You and your child can share this journey – as adults who love and respect each other.


"Based on ideas in their new book coming up in March: How to Really Love Your Adult Child."









A Love Language Minute

Link:
Live Stream Saturday Mornings
MBN Radio Live Stream

Building Relationships Radio
Eastern Time Live Stream Saturday Mornings
11:00 a.m. Eastern Time Live Stream

Five Love Language Feed
RSS

Most Recent Program
Listen Now
Download Podcast

Upcoming Programs
Dear Gary - January 2011
January 29, 2011

Spend an hour with some friends this weekend and deal with some pretty difficult issues. On this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, it’s our January “Dear Gary” broadcast. We’ll hear questions and comments from listeners and Dr. Chapman will provide his perspective. It’s sure to be an encouragement.

Tune in to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, the weekly radio broadcast brought to you by Moody Radio and Moody Publishers. Listen live online Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. and evenings at 7:00 p.m. CST at moodyradio.org, check your local radio station, or download free podcasts and get more information.

Link: Love Language Minute ~ Building Relationships Radio

You and Your Adult Child: Ezekiel 18:1-32


Saturday, January 15, 2011

Love Language Minute ~ Fill That Love Tank! ~ "Love" ~ Giving Love on Valentine's Day



Love Language Minute ~ Fill That Love Tank! ~ "Love" ~ Giving Love on Valentine's Day


Fill That Love Tank!
Dr. Gary Chapman


Love is the most important word in the English language.
Psychologists have concluded and most of us agree that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. I like to picture that inside all of us is an emotional love tank. If the tank is full, we fare well. But if the tank is empty, life becomes dark.

So, I'm asking you, "On a scale of 0-10 how full is your love tank?" Better yet, why don't you ask that question to your spouse. If their answer is less than 10, you ask: "What could I do to help fill it?" Then, you do it to the best of your ability. If you do this exercise once a week, your spouse will likely begin to ask you the same question and you will learn how to keep each others' love tank full.

If love is so important why is it so elusive?
Through 30 years of counseling I have heard it over and over again, "Our love is gone, our relationship is dead. We used to feel close, but not now. We no longer enjoy being with each other. We don't meet each other's needs."

Could it be that deep inside these hurting couples there is an emotional love tank that is empty? Could the misbehavior, withdrawal, harsh words, and critical spirit occur because of that empty tank? I think the answer is Yes. If you would like to change the emotional climate, then look for something positive in your spouse and give them a compliment. Your positive statement is the first step toward a growing marriage.

Keeping the love tank full takes refills daily.
I'm convinced that keeping the emotional love tank full is as important to a marriage as maintaining the proper oil level in your car. Running your marriage on an empty love tank may cost you even more than trying to drive your car without oil. How do you fill the love tank of your spouse? You find out what makes them feel loved and then to the best of your ability, you speak their "love language".

There are five love languages:
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch
One of these speaks more deeply to your spouse than the other four. Learn to speak the right love language and watch your spouse begin to smile. When they feel loved, they are likely to reciprocate. If you don't know your spouse's love language, why not find out today. Have them take the love language quiz online, or simply download the Free App for iPhone/iPad.

Giving Love on Valentine's Day (just 4 weeks away)
The need to feel loved by one's spouse is at the heart of marital desires. A man said to me recently, "What good is the house, the cars, the place at the beach, or any of the rest of it, if your wife doesn't love you?" Do you understand what he was saying? "More than anything, I want to be loved by my wife." Material things are no replacement for emotional love.

However, most of us focus on "getting love" not on "giving love". But Jesus said, it is more blessed to give than to receive. Why not ask your spouse: "What could I do or say that would make me a better husband or wife?" Their answer will tell you how to love them most effectively. Valentine's Day is just four weeks away. Make plans now to express your love in the way that most effectively communicates how deeply you feel. A full love tank makes for a wonderful holiday!

Adapted from the A Love Language Minute broadcast.











A Love Language Minute



Archive:
View an archive


Link:
Live Stream Saturday Mornings
MBN Radio Live Stream


Building Relationships Radio
Eastern Time Live Stream Saturday Mornings
11:00 a.m. Eastern Time Live Stream


Five Love Language Feed
RSS


Tune in to Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, the weekly radio broadcast brought to you by Moody Radio and Moody Publishers. Listen live online Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. and evenings at 7:00 p.m. CST at moodyradio.org, check your local radio station, or download free podcasts and get more information.


Most Recent Program Air Date January 15, 2011

Featured


Cindy Easley

Cindy was born in Houston, Tex. She graduated from Stephen F. Austin State University in Nacogdoches, Tex., with a Bachelor of Science in Sociology and Social Rehabilitation. Cindy is a nationally known speaker with the Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference. Cindy and her husband Michael, former president of the Moody Bible Institute and teaching pastor at Fellowship Bible Church in Nashville, Tenn., have three daughters and one son.

Most Recent Program
Listen Now
Download Podcast


Upcoming Programs

Featured: Jonathan and Elaine Daugherty

January 2011


Jonathan and Elaine Daugherty

January 22, 2011

Sexual addictions are affecting marriages at an alarming rate. On this edition of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, Jonathan and Elaine Daugherty join us to talk about the toll that took on their marriage and the hope God can give. It’s a story of pain, rejection, sin, and ultimately the grace of God.



2011 Past Programs